4 Things I Learned this Semester
Ya'll, fall semester is OVER! It's a bittersweet feeling because while I am so excited to spend Christmas and the break with my family and friends back home, I am really going to miss my friends that I have made here! After 3 years and 3 different schools I feel like I have finally found home here at PC, which is the sweetest feeling in the world! This semester has had it's fair share of ups and downs, but these sweet friends have been by my side every step of the way. I grew a lot this semester and I am so thankful for that.
Here's 4 things I've learned this semester:
- It's ok to put yourself first. Like most people I think, I am a total people pleaser. I will say yes to everything and anything possible - until now. I learned the importance of putting myself first this semester and saying no. Ya'll, saying yes to everything is exhausting and I used to think it was the only way to love and serve people. But, I would rather do a few things with all my heart and love and keep myself healthy rather than do everything with little joy and resent myself and the activities in the end. Say no. Put yourself first. You can't love people well if you aren't loving and taking care of yourself first.
- The most fun times aren't planned. College is a lot of "routine" fun and outings - usually on the weekends. And while these times are fun, I found that my best memories from college and this semester come from spontaneous adventures with friends. Whether it was sneaking into abandoned buildings, exploring a new city, or just driving around in the car singing - these were definitely my best memories and gave me some great stories that broke away from the usual college mold of fun.
- People want to help you. Our culture tends to promote a sense that we need to appear put together all of the time and never ask for help - it kind of sucks. This semester was hard though and to be honest, I was a hot mess most days. I had no choice but to ask for help from my friends and professors which made me feel uncomfortable and awkward. My awkward requests though were met with so much joy and love - everyone I asked was so willing to help in anyway they could. I then thought about myself, I LOVE to help others in anyway I can - so why was I so reluctant to ask for it myself? Asking for help not only got me what I needed, but it also allowed me to go deeper in my relationships.
- Always choose people over school. Forgive me, mom and dad! In 5 years your GPA will not hold any significance, but the people you met during your time at college will. Don't get me wrong grades are important and that is your job as a full time student, but grades will never be more important than people. Your GPA will never comfort you after a rough night or cheer you on at your wedding, but those people will. So if your deciding between a late night beach trip with friends or studying for your theology quiz, go to the beach always. You'll never tell your kids about acing that quiz, heck you won't even talk about it at lunch the next day, but you sure will talk about that beach trip.
These are some of the things that shaped me along the way and maybe they will help you on your next semester! I sure hope so! Thanks for reading!